Thanks for popping in. Sorry we can't chat in person, but do allow me to introduce myself.
My name's Jonathan. I'm a writer, speaker, teacher and coach, but first and foremost, a student of life. (Actually that's not who I really am, but I don't want to dive into that now because I might scare you off...)
I've been trying to grow and improve myself since I was a teenager (I'm now 46 by the way). I've read hundreds of self-improvement books by authors like Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Ken Wilber and Eckhart Tolle and been to many workshops and seminars given by the same people. (You might say I was a bit of a personal growth junkie!)
Over the last 20 years, I've also explored how different meditation and breathwork techniques, yoga, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), laughter therapy and other transformational modalities could help me to improve the quality of my life.
In 2006, I felt the urge to start teaching what I'd learned to other people. Over the next seven years, I gave motivational talks and training for companies in South Africa and ran many transformational workshops and retreats for people wanting to let go of their 'stuff' and positively change their lives.
But all the while, I couldn't help feeling that I was missing something and not really making the impact on people's lives that I wanted to.
I also had a profound experience when I attended a free talk given by one of the world's top motivational speakers and authors. As I watched him in action, with his matching tie and handkerchief strategically placed in his suit's breast pocket, flashing the perfect smile and speaking at a hundred miles an hour to convince people to attend his next high-priced, life-changing workshop, it all seemed a bit phony to me and I thought, "I never want to be like this man".
I felt that I'd been lied to by the world and all the so-called 'experts' in personal growth I'd listened to and followed over the years. No one was really telling the whole truth and nothing I'd tried really seemed to work to make me happy.
I felt betrayed and really, really
angry about this, and to be honest, about the whole mess that was my life and the world. This was despair and rage like I'd never experienced before.
These powerful feelings really frightened me because of what they made me want to do to myself and others. I felt alone, desperate, trapped and sometimes suicidal.
But fortunately, I wasn't alone.
I'd been regularly reading, studying and teaching a book called A Course in Miracles
for about 10 years without fully understanding it, but suddenly, it all started to make sense to me.
And it became clear that rigorously applying the Course's
daily lessons was the only way I was going to be able to work through the intense negativity that was arising in me. As these intense negative thoughts and feelings arose, I'd breathe in deeply and let go of them using simple ideas contained in the Course's
daily lessons and some techniques I've developed and refined over the years.
Sometimes I needed to talk to my wife, who thankfully is also studying and reading the Course
, and I found our regular discussion sessions with others about the Course's
teachings very helpful. It wasn't always easy, but I could always let go and restore my peace of mind in the end.
While life continues to present its inevitable challenges, I can now let go almost immediately or just choose not to get upset in the first place. Mostly, I'm in a 'Flow' state
where I can do what I need to do at home and work (in my other life, I'm a business consultant) without feeling much stress or negative emotion.
All that's left is a simple, easy way of living in the moment without unnecessary thoughts about the past or future or any of the toxic emotions (anger, fear, rage, depression, anxiety, etc.) that used to disturb me so much.
Being in 'Flow' is where everyone wants to be, but very few people manage to achieve it consistently. That's because they're trying to get into Flow in completely the wrong way.
Conventional wisdom teaches that we need to improve ourselves by learning new ideas, techniques and skills, and when we've attained mastery of these, we'll be healthy, happy and in Flow all the time.
But can you see the problem with this philosophy? It assumes that you are not good enough as you are and that you must continually improve your insufficient self to be happy and successful.
This just perpetuates the false sense of insufficiency that besets almost every human being, guarantees you'll never attain real happiness and Flow consistently and keeps several multi-billion dollar industries that rely on people's continual search for the answer to their problems going.
What if the truth is that you are already whole, complete and perfect and all that you need to do is to let go of your sense of limitation and not being good enough as you are? If this is true, then the only way to be happy and find your Flow is to let go of all thoughts and emotions that support this sense of limitation, lack and insufficiency.
I'll say that again a bit louder because this realisation was truly a 'lightbulb' moment for me:
IF YOU ARE ALREADY WHOLE, COMPLETE AND PERFECT, THEN THE ONLY WAY TO BE HAPPY AND FIND YOUR FLOW IN LIFE IS TO LET GO OF ALL THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS THAT SUPPORT YOUR SENSE OF LIMITATION, LACK AND INSUFFICIENCY.
"OK, I get it," you're saying to yourself. "But how the *#°! do I actually do it? Some of my 'stuff' has been haunting me for years." This is THE QUESTION. It's taken me 33 years to figure out THE ANSWER.
The short ANSWER is that I've developed a Ten-step Letting Go Process based mostly on the teachings of A Course in Miracles (as well as my experiences with meditation and breathwork) that will help you to let go of any negative thoughts and emotions.
This sounds trite or cliched when you put it into a simple sentence like this, but its actually incredibly profound.
All your problems and pain arise from negative thoughts and feelings that you often act out in the world. When you know how to let go of these, nothing is a problem any more and you realise that you can't really suffer.
So by learning how to change your perception of your experiences, you will have the ability to transform your 'reality' from a negative, unhappy to a positive, happy one in any situation. That is why I believe this is the most powerful system on the planet for finding authentic happiness and living in Flow.
I know this is a bold claim to make given that there are thousands of different teachings and modalities for personal growth, self-help, healing and transformation (not to mention religions!) out there and hundreds of thousands of so-called 'experts' teaching them. But I'll let you be the judge of whether my claim is true if you'll allow me to share the system with you.
Last year, I ran a six-week online Course I called The Art of Letting Go for a small group of people from three different continents who helped me to beta-test it. The beta-test course was completed towards the end of October and I'm planning to run a new, improved Course starting on Sunday the 28th of April this year.
This is what a few of the participants in the Course had to say about their experience of the Course:
"Thanks for a wonderful group session last night! It was an inspiring, enriching and uplifting experience!! True spiritual communion across the world. I appreciate."
- Wim Griebenow (South Africa)
"I download and listen to the audio session each day en route to work.
Just being 'in the session' that way and listening to what said and shared collapses time for me. All the negative stressful thoughts that used to preoccupy my mind in that commute are now not there. I'm listening and applying the ideas."
- Robyn Botha (South Africa)
"It has truly been a wonderful journey the last 40 Days. Words cannot do it justice what happened within me. A new way of looking at each lesson and the connection with everyone has been truly a blessing and Mirific. Thank you for the chance to join you and all the others, such a blessing."
- Patricia Richards (South Africa)
"I do appreciate everything as I have already noticed a difference in my outlook and actually being able to sleep all through the night. I would definitely recommend you to anyone I know."
- Jeff Benson
"I am very grateful and feel blessed that our paths have crossed. You have actually taught me 2 very valuable lessons. But mostly you made me remember. We enter our life forgetful of our connection. At times we remember that connection, but at times enter the darkness, only to meet someone that helps you to see the light again. You have done that for me and I am very grateful for that.
Through the practice of meditation, something I haven't done in a while, I realised what an important tool it is on our path. So I thank you for that gift.
Secondly, Love! It is truly the only way... The connection I feel, the love I feel, is greater than it was before I met you. It is done, it is complete."
- Christian Accolla (UK)
For more information about the Course and some powerful Free Resources designed to help you let go and find your Flow, keep reading (and please make sure you subscribe to my mailing list at the end if you haven't already done so).
I look forward to connecting with you soon.